Our biggest illusion is that we can control people.
We feel that whatever we do and say is right and it should be implemwented by the others.
We can show anger, hurt, resentment and we can get our work done.
But when people listen to us, we feel we can control them . When people listen to us, they are not even aware that the are choosing to listen.
We believe we can control them and they believe that they are being controlled but both are not true.
When I control , I will always have a fear in my mind of loosing the control.
The other person who keeps feeling controlled will keep feeling like a victim.
What is more important that I AM CHOOSING IT.
Once I am aware of this, I will not blame others for my state. I feel powerful as the control is in my hands and I am not a victim.
It gives me a good feeling that whatever I want to do is according to my choice.
People in office might feel they are working late hours, putting in more efforts, have to reach high targets but they choose to continue to work so they don’t blame others for their state…..
I am choosing this as this job matters to me my family is dependant of the money, I am choosing, I am not a victim.
